Nobody wants to have a reputation for being bad in bed. Fortunately, research suggests there are a few things you can avoid to make a big difference.
Match.com, one of the largest online dating services in the world, just released its annual Singles in America study, which grilled over 5,000 singles ages 18 and older on every aspect of their romantic lives. While there were a lot of fun statistics to come out of this year’s edition, one fact stood out: some of us are messing up sex.
In the survey, Match.com asked single people what their biggest red flags were during sex — the things most likely to make them say it was bad. 82 percent of singles said “too much talking” was the quickest way to get sex rated as bad, followed by “no passion” at 74 percent, “little movement” at 63 percent, and finally, being a bad kisser at 62 percent.
So what’s the opposite of someone who talks too much, doesn’t move, and isn’t passionate? The study had some insight into what makes for good sex as well.
An overwhelming 83 percent of singles “regard a caring and enthusiastic partner” as the number one sign of good sex. The second most important indicator of good sex, the survey said, was communication, at 78 percent, and “being a good kisser” came in third at 76 percent. All three of those factors, in fact, ranked higher than actually getting off.
It’s worth noting that all of these factors are part of a whole. The data shows that ideally, to have great sex, you should be genuinely into the sex you’re having, be an open communicator (but don’t talk too much!), and make damn sure you’re a good kisser. The fact that getting off isn’t at the top of the list means that if you’re nailing those parts, theres a good chance your partner will still have a good time. And as far as the almighty O goes, we’ve got some tips on helping her get there, but ultimately, don’t focus on it too much.