In middle and high schools across America, many young students are lucky enough to receive basic sex education, where they learn the ins and outs of intercourse (pun intended), how to put a condom on a banana, and some fundamental facts about STDs.
In a lot of schools, however, the information is either incomplete and/or completely and ridiculously inaccurate. This is actually a huge problem, and only 13 states in the U.S. require sexual education to be medically accurate. For instance, my school’s sex ed instructor basically told us we’d be damned and worthless if we had sex before marriage, and that was it. Very problematic, as you can imagine.
But even in less extreme cases, 99 percent of us aren’t taught some of the most important things about sex, which is why a Reddit user started an askreddit thread titled: What are some things that we aren’t taught in sex ed that we should all probably learn about?
And from the staggering 2209 comments, I hand-picked the 20 best pieces of advice, and compiled them into this handy list so we can all read and learn, because knowledge is power and sex is fun.
1. “Pullout game is a myth.”
2. “For women and men: Go pee after sex. This is never taught and its so important.
“Overall it seems that there is not a 100% guarantee that this will prevent a UTI, however all studies agree that this is a good habit to have because even if you do not get a UTI, bacteria and what not do get up there and you should evacuate it. I believe the best way to look at this is better be safe then sorry.”
3. “That there’s nothing wrong with needing lube. I mean sometimes us girls want to have sex but our vaginas aren’t totally cooperating in the lubrication department so they need a little extra help. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Lube usage should totally be taught.
“Also girls need to be taught that sometimes you don’t have an orgasm from penetrative sex and that’s totally normal. Porn films and fan fiction teaches us that the very second penis even grazes a vagina it’s orgasm city population you. Not really the case.”
4. “Masturbating if done in moderation is healthy for your prostate.”
Researchers from the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health found that not ejaculating regularly causes the fluid in your prostate to become stagnant and full of unsavory viruses and bacteria, which can lead to serious health problems like cancer, which is obviously very bad.
The study revealed that men who ejaculated at least 21 times a month were 19 to 22 percent less likely to develop prostate cancer, and another study also found that men who got off over five times a week were 33 percent less likely to develop prostate cancer.
So go ahead. Rub one out.
5. “Antibiotics nullifies birth control pills.”
6. “75% of women do not climax from penetration alone.”
7. “Taking time to warm up and stimulate one another is both good bonding and can help make the act more enjoyable.”
8. “That the act of sex, and the hormones released, are the reasons we feel close to the people we’re with, and that one shouldn’t make too many long term or important decisions based on those feelings. Not for a while anyway.”
9. “For girls especially to speak up about what they do and don’t like. You deserve to have just as good of a sexual experience as him. You don’t like swallowing? That’s okay! That position with your legs in the air is actually hurting your neck and not fun for you? Speak up! Saying no to something doesn’t make you a prude or no fun.”
10. “Hygiene. Guys wash your hands. Both of you, brush your teeth before oral.”
11. “That if you’re asked to wear a condom, it’s not a thing you can negotiate. They asked you to wear a condom and taking it off during sex can get you in trouble; they didn’t consent to sex without a condom.
“Also, there was a test done with Trojan XL condoms: It can fit around a whole basketball, gents. Saying your condoms don’t fit is a bullshit excuse.”
12. “Communicate, communicate, communicate. “Do you like it when I go down on you?”/ “I want you to do me this way,”/ “More mustard on the nipples,”/ etc. The more you communicate, the better it is for both of you.”
13. “Porn is not an accurate depiction of real world sex.”
14. “The different types of lube and which to use with condoms.”
To elaborate, you should never use oil-based lubes with condoms, because it can cause the condom to break. Only silicone and water-based lubes are compatible with condoms!
15. “Please make sure to wash your hands, face, or genitals if you are going to be using them / putting them in anywhere to avoid infections! Hygiene is important.”
16. “How to take birth control pills properly. The number of my college friends who would do nothing when they missed a pill blew my mind.”
17. “The annual cost of supporting one child from ages 1 to 18.”
18. “The clitoris is like an eyeball, don’t go rubbin’ on it when it’s dry.”
19. “There should really have been a short lesson about safety regarding anal play... I’ve read a lot of comments in various threads in my time here that detail some embarrassing ER visits after somebody lost a toy in their ass.”
20. “Do not ever ever ever ever go from A to V. Don’t lick, finger, penetrate, whatever, a b-hole and then stick the same unclean device, be it a tongue, a toy, a finger or a penis, into your v-hole. Infection waiting to happen. Real life ain’t porn!”