1. You’re both independent.
Each of you has a social life outside of the relationship. You’re not a constant “two-for one” situation, which means you’re each confident and secure. It’s wonderful when this happens, because it’s so irritating when someone can’t be seen without their better half.
2. You never bash each other on social media.
If you have fights, they’re done with dignity and behind closed doors. And if an argument pops up in public (which it usually never does), you agree to talk about it later, which is relieving to everyone in your presence. No one will ever see you go tit for tat on Facebook.
3. You aren’t mushy online.
Too much gushing over each other on social media is annoying, although a little bit is tender and great. But the fact is when you’re an awesome couple, you explain how much you mean to each other in person, not just digitally.
4. You disagree sometimes.
The couple that never fights or has a different point of view probably has a boring relationship. Of course, no one likes the constantly fighting couples, but two people who are secure in themselves and in their relationship can disagree but still respect each other.
5. You like to socialize and have fun with other people.
While you don’t mind a good night on the couch, you still like to mingle amongst your friends. There’s nothing worse than the couple who never leaves their house once they’ve started dating. Secure people are comfortable at home with each other but also enjoy doing things apart.
6. You still turn each other on.
The best couples find each other sexy and are affectionate, but not in that “Let’s grind against the bar like we’re 18″ sort of way. These couples still get it on and respect each other’s desires and sexual tastes within reason.
7. You champion each other’s successes.
People in amazing relationships applaud the other person’s triumphs and are there for each other during down moments. These are two individuals who want the other person to be strong and happy, not two insecure people each looking to do better than the other.
8. You have separate hobbies and interests.
Even if the other person finds the hobby weird, he or she encourages his or her loved one to enjoy it at will.
9. You have enough in common.
Opposites might attract, but eventually they can repel. It’s OK to have differences, but the best couples share values and some common touchpoints in order to go the distance. The key to being a fabulous couple lies in two well-suited and confident people matching up together, plain and simple. Neediness isn’t attractive. Two independent beings coming together for the greater good of their relationship, though? That’s just sexy.